Thanksgiving is the unequivocal holiday of full houses, great food, and quality time with those we love. And yet, how often do the conversations that fill our time together make it past surface-level small talk, gossip, or worst of all: politics? Particularly after years plagued by so many missed gatherings, isn’t it about time we made our time together a bit more special?

That’s why we've teamed up with seven-time New York Times best-selling author and Remento advisor Bruce Feiler to develop 10 family-friendly questions guaranteed to get everyone sharing stories at your Thanksgiving gathering this year. Use them before, during, or after the big meal to see those around you in a new light. After all, reminiscing about the past is scientifically proven to make us happier, plus has some serious developmental benefits for kids.

So once you’ve carved your Turkey, carve out a bit of time and use these questions to bring your family together. Ask a few, ask them all, or make up some of your own. And if you’re up for it, use Remento to record what you hear to make the answers truly unforgettable.

10 Questions for Thanksgiving Gatherings

1. What was your favorite part of Thanksgiving as a child?
2. Who did the Thanksgiving cooking in your home—and did you help?
3. What kooky or non-traditional food did your family enjoy at the holidays?
4. How did your family decorate your home for the holidays when you were young?
5. Tell us about the first Thanksgiving you hosted yourself.
6. Tell us about a holiday tradition you practice today that you didn’t practice growing up.
7. Who is the most memorable guest you've had join you at a Thanksgiving meal?
8. Tell us about a holiday fail.
9. How have you incorporated community service or spirituality in past Thanksgivings?
10. What else did you do Thanksgiving weekend when you were younger?

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